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The World Interpreted through Alice in Wonderland


Consulting the Oracle


First Meeting

Many Don’t Arrive


A Meeting is Held

Alice is voted unanimously as Ambassador


Waiting to meet the Red Queen

(With trepidation )


A productive discussion did not seem in the cards


And, in fact, became quite hostile.


Things on the home front were not much better.


With a heavy heart, Alice helped prepare her friends for battle with what little she could find.


Alice listened to the Mock Turtle’s prophecies of the outcome of the war.

    4E9FC6FE-AC4F-4C99-AF28-2985270D3379.png Is the Mock Turtle going to be right?

Mr. Putin, speaker with two faces?

Mr. Netenyahu, regretful of civilian deaths?


Who will take responsibility for their actions?

Who will pretend to paint the roses red with the blood of the fallen?


I’m Not “Doing it Right” ; The Price of Hubris

A respected (by me, at least) site on Facebook had a guest blogger write a post on how, in the wake of the media furor I confess I haven’t watched, allies are, in their ignorance of transgender issues, creating more of a problem than helping.

A very nice way to phrase it, I thought, while insulting allies in the process. Well done.

It should be pretty obvious how I feel about the LGBT community after all my posts on the subject. I’m not even going to say anything about that. But I would like to say a few things.

Being a woman in many countries in the world isn’t a cakewalk either. We happen to be born that way too. Get over it. In many of the same countries now receiving attention for their treatment of gay couples, it has been absolutely fine to drag a woman out of her house, rape her, and set her on fire, or however else her husband wants to kill her. Legally. It could have just been because she looked at him wrong. She looked at another man. She spilled something. That’s been going on for centuries–longer. It’s so commonplace it doesn’t even make the news.

I already wrote about what’s happening in this country with women’s rights. I thought I had written everything I had to say in my last post. I guess I hadn’t. I wasn’t being told I was doing things wrong at that point. Or, at least, I hadn’t read the post.

This isn’t meant to be hateful–I am truly angry. I am angry at the self-righteousness of some people in the LGBT community who seem to feel they are better than everyone else. I had a conversation, online, about this once with someone who may or may not have been real (long story, but he was representing himself as a gay man). I said, “Don’t you think pride might get in the way a little bit when it comes to equality? Which is more important? It’s not like you have to demean yourself, just don’t put everyone else beneath you, because that isn’t equality at all.” He just said he was better than everyone else. Better than those of us (me) who practiced abnormal sex and didn’t understand anything. Okaaaay.

Now, given that he was someone who may or may not exist, I’ll take that with a few cups of salt. I see nothing wrong with having a sense of pride in community, and I think that there is a distinct gay community that I certainly wouldn’t want to see destroyed. A man commented recently on Facebook how he thought the “g” on gay should be capitalized (I’m assuming the same would go for the “l” in lesbian, etc.) because it was a community. I thought about that, and before I could reply with what I was thinking, someone else did (all the replies up to that point had been negative). The man who replied commented that it would be sort of akin to how the Deaf community capitalizes the “D.” The people who consider themselves part of their distinct culture capitalize it. The ones who don’t, simply don’t capitalize deaf. There’s division there as well.

The problem occurs when a community starts to act superior. I think the slogan, “Born this way,” is awesome. It states a fact and leaves no room for argument. On the other hand, “Get Over It,” in my mind, takes a completely different tack which I find offensive. Think about all the other contexts that has been used in, even if unspoken. So you’ve been raped. Get over it. Your husband beats you. Get over it. Your husband left you for a younger woman. Get over it. Your wife left you for another woman. Get over it. Is this starting to make sense? As a society, this country isn’t very sympathetic or empathetic. I really don’t know how “Get over it” is supposed to be taken. But that’s the way I see it, and if I see it that way, and am of the mind it doesn’t matter a whit who people love, have relationships with, or marry, then how do people who don’t feel that way see it? I don’t think it makes them feel any more kindly toward the LGBT community. I think it’s going to alienate them further. The people who will think it’s the most clever are the people in the community themselves, in my opinion. It doesn’t matter which well-respected actor you have wearing the shirt proclaiming the slogan. I love the actor, really don’t like the shirt.

I’m also not a religious person, as people who are familiar with me know. But there’s a reason there’s the statement, “Pride cometh before a fall.” Hubris is one of the nastiest characteristics a person can have, I think. Who truly wants to spend any length of time in a room with someone radiating that emotion?

The other thing that I dislike is being accused of being an ignorant ally for the Trans* population when I have a few questions about that myself. Some of this is guessing and trying to fit pieces together, and some is from things I have read from blogs of people I trust. I’m not repeating those, I’m explaining how I’ve come to this question. I would like to know, truly, if the LGBT community is as split as I have heard. That if you are gay or lesbian, you tend to be toward the top of the group, if you’re Trans* you tend to fall more in the middle and are possibly  sometimes looked down on along with those who are bi–I know at least in literature and possibly real life people who identify as bi are vilified at times for being the “cheaters” and the ones you can’t trust because they “haven’t made their mind up?” Well, I think they have made their mind up; they are sexually oriented toward men and women. I also think they are capable of being in a monogamous, faithful relationship with a person of either sex during the time they are with that person. Why is that so hard to understand? I think it’s all a matter of personality. I’m sure there are as many gay or lesbian jerks as bi jerks, people who are bi might just make easier targets. And, as I didn’t point out very well, there are not so nice people everywhere. That’s part of equality too. No one has the corner on the market for being a jerk. It’s an equal opportunity occupation.

From what I’ve noticed, and I’m going into a bit of a news hibernation state from overload–it seems there is so much hatred aimed at the Trans* community right now, especially the youth. It makes me so…gods, sad. I don’t have the exact details in front of me right now. I hadn’t heard about the eleven year-0ld boy who tried to kill himself because of being bullied because he liked My Little Pony, and who is in a coma and may have sustained severe brain damage. I had never heard of bronys–there is a whole, huge world of which I am completely oblivious. (Returning to the gay community, then there was the high school senior who came out on Facebook and started to receive the oh-so-brave anonymous death threats, and then the 8th grader who came out and had his driveway graffitied.) The confusion and frustration of being born in a body you know you don’t belong in, one older Trans* woman told me, transitioning from male to female, was almost intolerable at times. And she’d been going through the process for, I think she said, nearly thirteen years because she didn’t have a lot of money and it was an expensive process, so she could only do it a bit at a time. She hated being in a body that was the wrong one.

And the thought that I keep having, after reading about those three boys, and thinking about a boy who killed himself a school-district not too far away from here who wrote two or three times in his suicide note, “It wasn’t bullies,” so the police ruled out bullies. Hello? If the kid’s written three times it wasn’t bullies, I’m guessing it probably was? Or maybe that’s just my overactive imagination. I really like the “it gets better” concept, and I think the support it has gotten, all the people who have made videos–it’s all just amazing. Gods, I even use it for myself sometimes when things really get screwed up. A while ago I read someone’s blog who was bullied all through school, then at work, once she went through college (which was okay) and started this particular job, one woman made her life a living hell. You think these things stop, that grown ups don’t do those sorts of things. Unfortunately, I identify with her, although my situation wasn’t nearly as bad. There are adult bullies. That wasn’t quite the point, but I started thinking about these three, well, four boys, and it’s so hard to tell them, “It will get better,” because I’m starting to wonder on some days. I try to stay positive, still tell them that. It really does get better.

I’m starting to think there should be other options, though. That maybe fighting the bullies in schools isn’t working. It didn’t work for that little eleven year old. Surely someone noticed what was happening, yet no one did anything about it. I’m sure that’s the case in much of what happens in these bullying cases. And are these kids really learning not to be bullies, or how to be better bullies? I’ve started to think, give the kids who are being a bullied a choice; give them somewhere else to go, another school with other victims of kids who have been bullied. What would happen? Would they finally get to be themselves? Would they make friends with the same interests? “But will it prepare them for the real world?” I can see administrators asking. Right. That’s what the bullies are doing, preparing them for the real world, because the kids they bully are different and they’re going to have to deal with bullying for the rest of their lives. My answer to those administrators? “It will keep them alive to give them a chance to face the “real” world, which this certainly isn’t. Because you’re failing in your job here.” There will always be bullies, but it’s a little different when you’re not stuck in the same physical space with them. Then, life really will get better.

Having a choice isn’t cowardice. If our kids are old enough to kill themselves because they can’t get out of a situation they are forced by law to be in, then we owe them a legal alternative of a safer place to be. That’s equality. That’s justice. They deserve the right to go to school unafraid, and that’s diversity, unity, love, and equality, for children who are LGBT, a little different, for kids who just don’t fit in. It doesn’t have to get better. It can be better now. Until school administrators take bullying as seriously as the parents sitting by the bedside of their little boy, Michael, waiting for him to wake up, if he wakes up, to see how much of him is still there (be stubborn, little one–your brain is a miracle in itself), children deserve better.

Michael Morones Mashable.com

Michael Morones

Michael Morones Currently in Critical Condition Pink News: Europe's Largest Gay News Service February 5, 2014

Michael Morones
Currently in Critical Condition
Pink News: Europe’s Largest Gay News Service
February 5, 2014

And so do allies. This one is taking a break for a while. I don’t need to feel appreciated. I don’t need to feel cared about. I also don’t need to be called ignorant.

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Freedom Justice Equality

Taking the High Road–Pretty Much

I was not happy earlier today. In fact, I was furious. I have no idea what is happening to this country, but it is wrong: morally and ethically. People in positions of power are abusing it to such a degree it leaves me feeling I am living in a surreal alternate reality created by Terry Gilliam. Ironically, also in a Terry Gilliam movie, Time Bandits, at the end of the film all that is left are charred, smoking remains. “Don’t touch it, it’s evil!” Kevin, the little boy cries out. But, as adults tend to do, they don’t listen to children, and… Well, that would just spoil the ending, wouldn’t it?

Why don’t people listen to children more? Quite often they’re much more clever than they’re given credit for, but that’s not how they’re treated. They’re talked down to. Patted condescendingly on the head and told to run off and play.

I hope the children see what’s happening, what the so-called adults in political and religious positions of power are doing, the way they’re behaving, and questioning why, if Jesus preaches love and tolerance, why are adults spewing such hatred and vicious words simply because two people of the same gender love each other. Love is love. Children are born loving and kind. Innocent. They are taught to hate.

The only thing I am keeping from the other post is this, because I think it, in some ways, defines the ideology of how blind hatred makes people.

Misology: a hatred of argument, reasoning, or enlightenment.

In this case, argument doesn’t mean the yelling and vileness occurring right now, the self-serving agendas; it means argument in the sense of a philosophical argument. To actually have a civil debate that is rational, thought out, with reasoning behind it. Is it a democracy to threaten to kick people off a committee if they don’t vote the way the Speaker of the House wants them to? Sounds a little more like petty tyranny to me. You won’t play by my rules, you can’t play with us any more? What is happening? Where has the reason gone, and, most importantly, why isn’t anyone stopping it?

I have two questions:

Where is the ACLU?

Where is the United Nations?

Where are the people that are supposed to keep things like this from happening? No one in this country helped prevent the shutdown, proving the system is broken. The system of democracy we had is gone. If ordinary citizens off the street said what some of these representatives are saying, they’d be jailed for hate crimes. So we now have two sets of laws? One for the rich and one for the poor? Deflecting the economic situation by terrorizing a segment of the population that is easy to target and really gets the religious right riled up along with the GOP. Clean your own houses. Another set of two books of laws?

And honestly, churches had best start making a lot of photocopies of sheets to fill out for when business owners hear the voice of Jesus telling them not to sell their wares or services to someone because of sexual orientation, preference, anything along those lines. What does it take, three miracles for someone to be eligible for sainthood? I thought Jesus was a little pickier who he chose to speak to, frankly. So if all of these people are hearing Jesus I can only think of a few explanations. Either there are a lot of miracles going on in your state and you are going to have a whole bunch of people eligible for sainthood in, what is it, 250 years or something like that? The grain should be tested for ergot, because that could be another possibility. That’s very likely the cause behind the Salem Witch Trials. Hm. Witch Trials, Witch Hunts…              Oh, nothing, just thinking aloud. Well, on paper. Most people who hear voices, generally labeled by the DSM-5 as “auditory hallucinations,” tend to happen to people who are diagnosed with some sort of mental illness.

I feel I can say that because I have mental illness. I have been delusional twice. The first was when, ironically, I thought I was Joan of Arc, and I was here, (that happened when I lived in California, so there, technically) to save people from, of all things, the tyranny of the government. And that was years ago! I happened to have a cold with a very bad cough at the time, no one ever reads about Joan of Arc being ill, and because it was the middle of the night, I forgot to write down at what times I was taking the cough syrup, so I took more than I should have. I was also on Prozac for depression. It turns out the combination of those two drugs have been found by pharmacists not to play so well together, and they are now contraindicated. So was I Joan of Arc? No. It was a bad reaction from medications. I could have heard the voice of Jesus. Would it have been him? No. I was still me, just with a really bad headache, and still with a cough. The other time was again medication related, just a dose that was too high and I was having some hallucinations. Mostly shadowy people that would disappear. Not as exciting as the Joan of Arc story.

So, then, are we to believe that 1) everyone believes so ardently in Jesus that he’s just going to pop frantically all over the state from store to store telling people not to sell something to someone because they are gay or lesbian? I truly think he’s got better things to do. What about the rest of the states? Does State Law tie Jesus strictly to your state 24/7 in order to inform clerks, grocery store attendants, pharmacists, someone selling an icee, the clerk at the pet shop… Is there a rider anywhere in this bill that Jesus can outsource? Maybe hire some minor gods from other countries to help him out here? He’s going to get burned out really quickly. But personally, I don’t think he’ll take the job. That’s not his M.O. He has better things to do, don’t you think? Heal the sick, comfort the suffering, aiding the poor, what Christianity is supposed to be about? Loving thy neighbor? Stop. (if that were a telegram). No ifs, ands, ors, or buts. Love everyone and spread love in His name.

I honestly didn’t mean to write this much, that was the whole point of rewriting the post, just put in a few sentences, the pictures/quotes I found, and leave it at that. There are some things in the world I really don’t like. One of them is being stabbed in the back by someone you thought you could trust. I’m a patient, for the most part, loving, and somewhat gullible person, which makes me a great target, because I’m also honest and I don’t lie, which I have definitely felt the repercussions of. One of the other things I really dislike is hypocrisy. In the past few months, the Constitution has already been twisted up like re-bar in a trash compactor. Of course people want to get their way, but in the normal, pre-shutdown world, it didn’t work that way. Representatives had to compromise, to reach an agreement. No longer. I lost any real faith I had in this system still working then. The checks and balances were set up that way for a reason.

Read this slowly: the church and the state are supposed to work separately. Apart. Not together. A representative of any faith, of course, would still be influenced by that, but it should not be the whole reason behind a decision. That is wrong. Why? Read the first sentence again. It has gone too far and it needs to stop, because things are out of control and many representatives sound like whiny, rich brats who have no experience with the real world, what it feels like to be poor, or on food stamps, or not to have health insurance, to skrimp through the month and live check to check–because they have never had to. Those people do not represent me. They represent themselves and the others like them,  and for them to tell my friends who they can and cannot marry, or that they don’t deserve equal rights, is the ultimate hypocrisy. Every single individual in this country deserves those rights. Those are the beliefs this country was founded on. But how many groups have had to fight for them? Enough is enough. One human being should be able to marry another human being. End. Of. Story. The NSA is already shoved in our faces and our lives. Big Brother is here and living with us, and Obama says it’s okay.

Hate is not the way to fight this idiocy. It’s easy to get caught up in the melodrama, which is what they want. They don’t want rational, clear, intelligent thinkers, because they aren’t. I don’t think they know how to deal with logic, they are fueled by pure emotion. Hate. And Fear. They use children to try to scare others. I think it’s because it makes them wonder, deep down, what if? People fear what they don’t understand, and possibly sometimes, I think, see a little of themselves, so they have to act extra tough and speak extra loud to prove they aren’t. Former bullies?

I am angry, confused, and a little lost at this point regarding what to do. I can’t donate money, I don’t know where the best place to volunteer time would be, and I’ve been feeling a bit agoraphobic. Another fine mess we’ve gotten ourselves into, Watson.

You can’t make the intentionally blind see, the ignorant suddenly understand with a flash of clarity.

Promote what you loveMark Twain Argue Stupid PeopleWe are not history yetBest Way to predict the futureAnd thus armed with this knowledge, we can try our bests to do these things, to love, not to hate. I am not even a religious person. At all. Yet I see the logic in that. Jesus is not a character from Mortal Kombat (although now that I’ve said that, I can’t really get the picture out of my head–what would we end up with? Jesus vs. Gandhi?). He spread love. I don’t  know what to do about these laws, these bills, these who think Jesus is telling a gay couple that he really can’t sell them the licorice allsorts. Unless Jesus adds, “The one on the left has a gluten intolerance, he just doesn’t know it yet. Tell him to go get tested.” That I might believe.